GAMOPHOBIA

So this is how a ‘deal’ is locked.

Someone puts the tag of ‘Sold Out’ against a Honda City, while someone gets their ‘purchase’ done on account of golden earrings. Then they only know how they feel comfortable to brandish themselves as ‘civilized’ and belonging to a high profile clan.

I have started feeling a weird sensation of fear while mingling with relatives, my own relatives. Fear of what? Fear of being asked what my age is. And the question being followed by (after some random useless talks) suggestions of possible bride-grooms, in oppa contractor style! This fear has discouraged me to commingle with those suggestive people.  So this is a usual sequence of events- first, looking at my face, they think and predict me to be a college going girl. When they come to know that the truth is otherwise, that I am doing a job since two years, suddenly they get enlightened about the delay in my marriage! How I am running out of my time to get married and how if I cross the ‘time limit’, all the options of ‘for-sale’ grooms will be exhausted! How difficult, eh? The competition is so tough, that the ‘parties’ stand in hunt for the chance to catch a fine product and they should start bargaining. And yes, Bargaining becomes easy, if everyone puts proper tags on themselves.

Now the other part. Before the ‘deal’ is ‘locked’, the girl is scanned in a way as the groom family has to launch a new model in the market! The checklist includes perfect height, perfect looks, perfect figure, etc. Eyes should be 6/6. If the girl is ‘through to next level’ before bargaining, it comes with a condition- get the Lasic LASER surgery done. The idea is that everything must be done on the expenses of the bridal family. And why not? The groom is for-sale anyways. After all parents have the dreams of fulfilling the wishlist- sofa set, chairs, washing machine, TV of latest model etc., which could not be materialized , the daughter-in-law should bring them with her. If that happens, how well! Talk not of the car. That’s to be brought by the coming lady, of course, isn’t it? That’s unwritten constitution. “A 4-wheeler is our right, folks”. “After all the groom is in such a nice job”. “A high profile job comes with negotiations according to status”. “Car to banti hai ji”.


And how genteel! So much of it that they feel shy in asking for it direct however they attach a price tag with the bride-groom. Without asking for it. Quote unquote. “Please see to it”, “Do what you can afford”. ‘What you can afford’ means 3-4 Lakhs in cash, a car, branded clothes, golden jewelleries etc., so much and so forth, that too for the groom, his family, his relatives…..
The buck doesn’t stop here. All these listings are the premiums in instalments! “After the wedding, we will be mingling frequently”, “you can settle the remaining in instalments too”.

The negotiations, the bargaining, the price tagging and the reverse-tagging, the instalments and whatnot. “Shadi kar rahe hain, koi aur rishta thodi” (“We are accomplishing the wedding after all, nothing short of it, no ordinary relations”)

The deal has to be locked.

FREEDOM THAT LIBERATE SOULS!

Freedom is being free from the clutches of society's notions of right and wrong,
Freedom is being free from Government's Red Tapism concept,
Freedom is being free from VIP and Laal Baati culture,
Freedom is equality when every one waits in a queue for his/her turn, no matter who is in line,
Freedom is getting your rights with out recommendation,
Freedom is getting your BPL card, Ration Card, Domicile, Passport with out giving bribe, 
Freedom is getting a job with out bribes,
Freedom is no exploitation by a senior officer,
Freedom is when a Neta respects your designation and lets you work according to proper norms,
Freedom is when an Honest Government employee rewarded not with transfer,
Freedom is when public do not need to tell a party worker for their work done,
Freedom is education for all,
Freedom is when a labour Officer works honestly to book the culprit of Child labour,
Freedom is to be free from Baabus of India,
Freedom is to be free from ignorance of Media pressitutes,
Freedom is a choice and making our own way,
Freedom is liberty!!
Freedom is not what they tell you from a Podium on a special day where every one bound to stand and compelled to applause for President/Prime Minister/CM/Cabinet Minister speech because they work under them. Freedom is not false promises to some one, speaking for hours and brag about false achievements of Sarkars.
Do not live with illusion for one day. To be frank no body even like to take a Flag from Child Labour on Foothpath 16th August.
For a country like us, laden with so many expectations and such a large burden of its own weight, there are many things we have to secure freedom from. 
Happy Independence Day India

PATRIARCHY OR SEMI-PATRIARCHY!!

How boy wala dare to decide if their Bahu should work or not? I want to know what made them think like they are god/goddess and have right to decide some one's fate? And why girls say yes to these patriarchal losers? I really want to understand what is this typical marriage deal? Girls'side give a lot financially to the boy and boy wala says we are against dowry. What is the definition of dowry then? I mean you get jewellery, cash, car, motorbike, laptop, refrigerator, Television, gold etc etc still boy family say we are again dowry. I think we girls do not respect ourselves enough that is why this patriarchy and semi patriarchy is taking us for granted. I personally want to slap hard to all who do not respect the independence of their going to be bride, who asks them not to have dreams, who mentally and physically torture their wives
I also pity the females who marry some one because of his property. There is no point to marry losers. It is better to stay single whole life than to marrying a wrong person with patriarchal blood. If they want a puppet they must marry a puppet or an illiterate who does not point a finger and use logic on their nonsense conversations. I have seen people who want to dominate the girl in every possible way. They decide all personal choices of their Bahu, they want her to wear make up, act like a puppet with every thing yes. Then they want financial control on her. In a way they always search a women who is on a lower post than their son. It is also a way to control her. A boy can be six-seven year older than the girl but their typical mindset do not want to marry a girl who is even one year elder than the boy. And then they say marriage is a holy ritual. Haha. It is more a well-planned deal from every angle where they marry a stranger and expect the baby within one year of marriage. How ridiculous can it be?

AND SYSTEM KILLED A MARATHON BOY

Can not stop sharing this. He was sold by his mother to a traveling salesman for ₹800 in 2004, rescued by Biranchi Das, a local judo- coach and orphanage operator. Biranchi paid back the salesman the Rs. 800. Budhia came to live with Biranchi Das. And when Birachi Das adopted Budhiya legally Budhiya's mother got no issues. But after her child's success biological mother claimed on the child. Budhiya's mother made him a mediocre kid. She was even brainwashed for money. Greedy!!

  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QevM7Ekdefs

So-called pseudo-journalists, Human-Right Activists, Child Welfare Committee of Oddissa, State Government, Bureaucrats said it is illegal and exploitation of the child if he runs. Budhiya was prisoned in his own house after he was separated from his coach Birachi Das. Later, Birachi Das was brutally murdered by Gangster who had almost 70 murdered cases against him.

See the tragedy of our system that spares a murderer but objects when a poor boy from slum bloom like an extra ordinary talent. Our system even accused the man ( Birachi Das) who recognize the talent. It is a collective shame on all of us. Politicians played politics, media entertain news, Human Right Activists never visit him again, System spared a murderer but could not spare a coach that rescued a child and made him known internationally in Limca Book of Records.

See the burden of our system. I do not find it is a system at all. Administration/ political/ Social system never ruin its people but ours do. He could be something but he ended up being nothing. It is pathetic to know that he even loses school races now. Look at his coach now, everyone can get an idea why he loses even school race?

NARCISSISM

Though narcissistic is a personality and mental disorder.A narcissist person has an overly high feeling of their own importance, thinking that they are better than those around them, obsessed with fantasies of power, success good looks, taking advantage of other people, difficulty in maintaining relationships, fragile self -esteem, over sensitive etc.
Narcissism is a big part of Indian culture . There is narcissism in everything eg politics, administration, judiciary, academics, media, Bollywood, entertainment industry, educational institutions, universities, police authority. Everyone consider them as they are the only superior creatures left. MLA thinks h/she is a CM. CM thinks h/she is a PM. PM thinks h/she owns the entire nation. A University Chancellor thinks they are god/goddess of education system. Though they are self -obsessed that they own the education system but frown looking at the students and hardly spare time to address the issues children face. Everyone knows about the bureaucracy. Red- Tapism is characteristic of Indian bureaucracy. This Red -tapism is there as freaking mentality of self-obsession. A Mantri ( I hardly prefer to say these people leaders as they do not have the attitude of a leader) thinks that Government officials are their public property. Even for a peon post they recommend some one. Going to be peon do not hesitate to lick their shoes. It must be giving these mantris feeling of immortal being.They give official orders to present the staff in their rallies though the out put of these programs are zero. These mantris expect the Gov officials to bow down in front of them as officials are their slave. 
You are in a queue for hours, mantri came, Guard open the door, every one else is banned in that 5-10 m area because Mantri is VVIP. 
See! These people even invented a term Very Very Important Person! Reserved chairs for VVIPS!
Reserved areas for VIPS! 
Reserved chairs for media! 
Reserved this and that, how reservation system will end? 
Mr. Kanhiya Kumar ji, in India there are classes in every thing. Lower class, Middle class,Upper Middle etc etc. Business class, economy class etc etc. And you visit in business class. I think all leftist do that when they join a party. How class system will end? 
Media peopl Barkha, Rajdeep ( all so called famous journalists) try to prove them they know every thing and this nation is full of idiots. They make their stories and prove their intellectual. Intellectual Rubbish! There was an article in my school book, that is too apt for these people. 
This narcissim is in every thing. When a fair guy/girl sees a dark person they do not forget to call their names. Every body is a narcissist around. Just look at their faces how strange and obsessed they are with themselves that they consider others just a piece of inferior race. When a guy's family looking for a arranged wife the family behave like they own a prince. Though we can not forget the way how sons are raised in India. Many of them consider their wives are their property for whomm they decide every thing from the choice of words to clothes. They always get pampered and treated like little prince so they consider them the one. When a person is doing nothing important to society they start living with self obsession. I feel that this slavery is in our nature and it has been more evident after British Rule.

RANDOM THOUGHTS

Will you leave us in near by Institution for children? We asked from Auto driver.
Sure!
How much we have to pay you?
Only Rs. 120 answered the driver.
But that is too much. We always visit the children home in 10 Rs. Though we are three so we can pay you 50 because it is too hot. No madam! That is too cheap. 
Okay then! We can pay you sixty. Now will you leave us?
Sorry madam!
Okay brother!
We ran to another driver and previous one shouted back. Okay madam 60 final!
We smiled together. See! This is India, people try to make fool of daily passangers when they visit another city.
No brother, we do not want to go.
An old lady in a Ghoda Gaadi ( Taanga) was watching us. Beta! I will drop you. Be seated here.
I was thinking if it is for the travel purpose or that old lady wants to leave us in the Children Home out of kindness. What ever it was we commuted by the Taanga. It took us almost half hour to reach our destination and paid some amount out of respect. On the way we got to know she was a widow and hardly able to manage bread butter for her family.
U know beta people do not like to commute by all these means. They feel it is against their dignity to travel like this.
Yes! How much true it is. We love to take selfies and love to update on social sites " Feeling awesome..Visited Aagra, commuted by Taanga". Then we keep sharing those pics with friends but when it happens in some common place or in a small city people act like see how these people are traveling? They keep staring you as you are some awkward creature. People are in hurry even when they have big AC cars and honk continuously. And I keep thinking Jis k upar chaat ni use grmi mai jyada jldi hoti hogi.

Though our country have dual standard for so many things. We are Fair and Lovely white Indians yet we talk to social equality. Feminists who talk of feminism are the one who frown up seeing the village ladies when they are sitting in a group of english speakers ( experienced by me) We talk of Women Empowerment and hardly appreciate the women who are auto Riksha drivers, old women who manage families alone. When an english speaks Hindi he seems cute to us but when Indians speak broken engish we call them illetrate. When a guy with branded clothes is too frank he is cool and when a villager is frank we call them Gawar. We see a person from Bihar and never mind to say Dekh Bihari. And when people from Bihar sitting in highly Administration jobs we walk behind them Saheb aa Gye Saheb aa gye. Yes! It is all about money. If you have money no matter what you do you are alwa so cool.

UNTIL DAWN

I waited the right moment,

I waited in distress,

Though in these shackles I am always bound,

I wander aimless,

I breathe purposeless,

In this ignorance,

I am blind,

My eyes lost not only sight,

It lost the winged flights,

In my own shackles,

I poured the heart out in rain,

Like a morning star,

My eyes awake until dawn.