This society is completely insane. They
sit in a group of sheep, decide some thing on your personal choices eg whether
you should marry or not, with whom you should get marry, what should be your
age while you are marrying, what should be the age difference between life
partners. What ever may be the reasons of marriage they always prefer a
suppressed, less empowered, at least three or four years younger girl than a
boy.
I
personally think this is how society worked for years and kept their patriarchy in place so they can dominate the
girls powerfully, economically, physically, sexually and socially. It is again
very strange to see how Indian parents hide every thing about the proposal of
marriage and try match making behind their children's back and when every thing
is fixed they want their children should be ready, prepared to stay with a
complete stranger whole their lives whether they are able to make pace or not.
They should agree like an obedient child. This semi patriarchy (I call it semi
patriarchy because I see women are equally blessed with that chauvinist
thinking as men are). Indians are more interested to know the future,
education, job etc for their boys and when it is a girl they only wants to know
when the marriage will happen, though guaranteed is nothing in today's world. Marriages
have been failures. Lovers have been in fake relationship. Love marriages
turned in divorce, arranged marriage continued even when women faced drastic
domestic violence. I do not know what compelled them to continue in fake rituals
that take their life, individuality, suppressed and left you on a brink of
psychological collapse. I have known great failed love stories. And I have read
stories like Karva Ka Vart by Yashpal where women face domestic violence and
still do fast for her husband. I do not call it part of culture rather I will
call it blind faith and ignorance to ignore your self respect. That is the
reasons women have been puppet of male chauvinism.